Responsibility feels like freedom and relief.

There is one condition.

That I take it solely for me.

The feeling of responsibility for others is heavy, compelling, mortifying.

Where do I see it most often during counselling sessions? In parent-child relationships, in partnerships, in work relationships, in friendships.

‘I’ll help you because you can’t cope’ ‘You poor, helpless’ ‘Others have it easier’

‘I’ll do it for you’ ‘You can’t make it, I can’ ‘I know better what’s good for you’ ‘I will choose for you’

Taking responsibility for others is an attempt to control them. Perpetrator. A veiled form of manipulation that it is my way. An illusion of peace and control over the situation is created. There is an illusion of feeling that I am important, that others need me and that they cannot cope without me.

Taking responsibility for others is a defense mechanism to avoid looking at oneself. At one’s pain, suffering, shadows. The spiral of the perpetrator and the victim, another layer. Let the one for whom I take responsibility see how much I give, give and sacrifice so that he/she cannot take responsibility for himself. I am awaiting for repayment, recognition, appreciation.

Taking responsibility for others is an attempt to break their will. It means taking away another person’s dignity so that they can go through life their own way.

There is one cost. Heaviness, emotions, disease, karma. Mortification.

Magdalena Magrian-Lewandowska

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