You can see it in constellation sessions. You can see it in biology too.It applies to every relationship, including those within groups.
The most important thing is whether I stand in my place in relation to my ancestors, including my parents.
Why is it the most important?
Because then life is easier and simpler—I don’t look for parents, and for what I didn’t receive from them, in other people.
Then it is easier and simpler in every other relationship: starting with an intimate partnership, through friendships, to someone I barely know—like the lady in the shop I like to visit.
When I don’t stand in my place in the family line, I remain stuck in illusions, and relationships with others collapse, disappoint, masks fall off, and the orders of life reveal themselves. Today, faster than ever.
“Standing in your place” helps define your territory. It helps you name what is important to you, where your place is, what you need, and in which role you will fulfil it.
“Standing in your place” helps you be attentive to the boundaries of your territory. Whom do I let in, whom do I choose not to let in? I have the right to that. When someone does not respect my place, I can reach for anger or aggression to protect it. I have the right to that.
“Standing in your place” also means reaching for something different, more, better—without guilt, shame, or fear. In the language of biology, when I feel my territory, it is easier to take bites of life.
“Standing in your place” is a movement of the Soul, a decision of the mind. The body will quickly respond to what is true and what is false.
I have noticed that when the boundaries of one’s territory are clearly defined, and a person accepts their place in the family line, the likelihood that someone will violate those boundaries is small. It will happen when, for example, someone temporarily falls out of their place. After all, that is human, and being human is an endless lesson in humility.
Here are a few examples of not standing in one’s place from sessions:
- an adult eldest child who feels jealous or resentful that the younger one had it easier
- an adult younger child who feels jealous or resentful that the older one was allowed more
- parents forcing their adult responsibilities onto their children
- children who feel responsible for their parents’ affairs
- a woman negotiating between her parents
- a woman taking the side of one parent
- a husband or wife putting the needs of their family of origin before the needs of the family they created
- an employee resentful toward the boss for not giving a raise
- a boss complaining about the quality of a long-time employee’s work
- an adult member of a community (e.g., a housing association) not taking interest in its affairs
- a parent expecting a teacher to teach their child, for example, self-discipline
- a dog owner who does not clean up after their pet
- a wife resentful toward her husband for “ruining her life”
Let me ask the question differently:
What do you need to say goodbye to in order to stand in your place?
I am here—if you get stuck, I invite you to a session. 🌷
Magdalena Magrian-Lewandowska
This is a place to acknowledge your experience of being human.
I work 1:1 or 1:2 with unconscious inner images,
beliefs of the mind, repressed emotions,
experienced in life as stagnation, suffering, difficulty,
strong emotions, lack of agency, a “vicious circle,”
somatic symptoms (especially skin, lungs, large intestine, rheumatoid arthritis).
I work using the tools of Systemic Constellations, Hellinger Constellations, Psychobiology, German New Medicine, contact with the inner child, with repressed parts of oneself, with emotions and feelings.
I invite you to a session.
1:1 Sessions
Session lasts up to 1 hour 15 minutes.
Price: 422 PLN
Registration: magdalena@magdalenamagrian.com
1:2 Sessions
Session lasts 1 hour 15 minutes.
Price: 422 PLN
The session may be extended up to a maximum of 1 hour 45 minutes.
In that case, the price increases proportionally and can reach up to 596 PLN.
Registration: magdalena@magdalenamagrian.com
More information about how I work and what the sessions look like:
magdalenamagrian.com
